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title: Your mate Kai goes, "if u don't cry at a funeral u didn't love them,… — When someone dies: guilt, numbness and… · tree and pragmatics
description: Your mate Kai goes, "if u don't cry at a funeral u didn't love them, simple." What's the best reply? Test 1 of lesson 1 «When someone dies: guilt, numbness and waves of grief» of the reflection course of Mova's primary school, with the dependency tree and pragmatics of the question and of each optio
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# Test 1 · When someone dies: guilt, numbness and waves of grief

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Your mate Kai goes, "if u don't cry at a funeral u didn't love them, simple." What's the best reply?

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**Mova's choice:** option 2 · **The right answer:** option 1 · wrong ✗ · **Who acts:** mate, u, best reply · **What happens:** go, not cry, not love, be · **To what, where:** them, funeral

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This is test 1 of lesson 1 «When someone dies: guilt, numbness and waves of grief» of the reflection course of Mova's primary school. The page gives the question's syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause, then the 4 options as the student saw them, each with its tree and pragmatics. Every text is parsed by Mova itself. How the student answered it, with the score of every option and why: [the test at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/reflection/1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief/#t1).

## The question {#question}

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*Sentence 1:* Your mate Kai goes, "if u don't cry at a funeral u didn't love them, simple."

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:1
# text = Your mate Kai goes, "if u don't cry at a funeral u didn't love them, simple."
1	Your	your	PRON	PRP$	Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs	2	nmod:poss	_	_
2	mate	mate	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	4	nsubj	_	_
3	Kai	Kai	PROPN	NNP	Number=Sing	2	appos	_	_
4	goes	go	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
5	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	11	punct	_	_
6	"	"	PUNCT	``	_	11	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
7	if	if	SCONJ	IN	_	11	mark	_	_
8	u	you	PRON	PRP	Abbr=Yes|Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	11	nsubj	_	_
9	do	do	AUX	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	11	aux	_	SpaceAfter=No
10	n't	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	11	advmod	_	_
11	cry	cry	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	4	advcl	_	_
12	at	at	ADP	IN	_	14	case	_	_
13	a	a	DET	DT	Definite=Ind|PronType=Art	14	det	_	_
14	funeral	funeral	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	18	obl	_	_
15	u	you	PRON	PRP	Abbr=Yes|Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	18	nsubj	_	_
16	did	do	AUX	VBD	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Past|VerbForm=Fin	18	aux	_	SpaceAfter=No
17	n't	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	18	advmod	_	_
18	love	love	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	11	conj	_	_
19	them	they	PRON	PRP	Case=Acc|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs	18	obj	_	SpaceAfter=No
20	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	21	punct	_	_
21	simple	simple	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	18	parataxis	_	SpaceAfter=No
22	.	.	PUNCT	.	_	4	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
23	"	"	PUNCT	''	_	4	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **go** | present | Your mate |  |  |  |  |  | vn disappearance-48.2-1 «NP V»: agent=Theme |
| 2 | **not** **cry** *speech: express* *a condition, not said to happen, in a quote* | present · do-support | u |  |  |  |  |  | vn manner\_speaking-37.3 «NP V»: agent=Agent |
| 3 | **not** **love** *in a quote* | past · do-support | u | them *= they* |  | a funeral |  |  | vn admire-31.2-1 «NP V NP»: agent=Experiencer they=Stimulus |

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One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree.

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*Sentence 2:* What's the best reply?

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:2
# text = What's the best reply?
1	What	what	PRON	WP	PronType=Int	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	's	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	1	cop	_	_
3	the	the	DET	DT	Definite=Def|PronType=Art	5	det	_	_
4	best	good	ADJ	JJS	Degree=Sup	5	amod	_	_
5	reply	reply	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	1	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
6	?	?	PUNCT	.	_	1	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **is a** | present | the best reply |  |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

## The options {#options}

### Option 1 · ✓ the right answer {#o1}

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Not true; some people go numb first and cry weeks later

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:o1:1
# text = Not true; some people go numb first and cry weeks later
1	Not	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	2	advmod	_	_
2	true	true	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	6	advcl	_	SpaceAfter=No
3	;	;	PUNCT	,	_	6	punct	_	_
4	some	some	DET	DT	PronType=Ind	5	det	_	_
5	people	people	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	6	nsubj	_	_
6	go	go	VERB	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
7	numb	numb	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	6	xcomp	_	_
8	first	first	ADV	RB	NumForm=Word|NumType=Ord	6	advmod	_	_
9	and	and	CCONJ	CC	_	10	cc	_	_
10	cry	cry	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	6	conj	_	_
11	weeks	week	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	10	obj	_	_
12	later	late	ADV	RBR	Degree=Cmp	10	advmod	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **go** | present | some people |  |  |  |  | first, numb *property* | vn disappearance-48.2-1 «NP V»: agent=Theme |
| 2 | **cry** *speech: express* | infinitive | some people *not said here* |  |  |  | week | late *property* | vn manner\_speaking-37.3 «NP V»: agent=Agent |

### Option 2 · ← Mova's choice {#o2}

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Not true, because nobody ever cries at funerals at all

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:o2:1
# text = Not true, because nobody ever cries at funerals at all
1	Not	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	2	advmod	_	_
2	true	true	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	7	advmod	_	SpaceAfter=No
3	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	7	punct	_	_
4	because	because	SCONJ	IN	_	7	mark	_	_
5	nobody	nobody	PRON	NN	Number=Sing|PronType=Neg	7	nsubj	_	_
6	ever	ever	ADV	RB	PronType=Ind	7	advmod	_	_
7	cries	cry	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
8	at	at	ADP	IN	_	9	case	_	_
9	funerals	funeral	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	7	obl	_	_
10	at	at	ADP	IN	_	11	case	_	_
11	all	all	DET	DT	PronType=Tot	7	obl	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **cry** *speech: express* | present | nobody |  |  | funerals | ever | at all | vn sound\_emission-43.2 «NP V PP.location»: agent=Theme at funeral=Location |

### Option 3 {#o3}

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True, but only for boys, girls always cry straight away

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:o3:1
# text = True, but only for boys, girls always cry straight away
1	True	true	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	6	amod	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	6	punct	_	_
3	but	but	CCONJ	CC	_	6	cc	_	_
4	only	only	ADV	RB	_	6	advmod	_	_
5	for	for	ADP	IN	_	6	case	_	_
6	boys	boy	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	10	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
7	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	8	punct	_	_
8	girls	girl	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	6	conj	_	_
9	always	always	ADV	RB	PronType=Tot	10	advmod	_	_
10	cry	cry	VERB	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
11	straight	straight	ADV	RB	_	12	advmod	_	_
12	away	away	ADV	RB	_	10	advmod	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **cry** *speech: express* | present | True boys and girls |  |  |  |  | always, away *property* | vn manner\_speaking-37.3 «NP V»: agent=Agent |

### Option 4 {#o4}

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True; love always shows up as tears on the very day

```conllu
# sent_id = question:reflection:1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief:t1:o4:1
# text = True; love always shows up as tears on the very day
1	True	true	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	;	;	PUNCT	:	_	5	punct	_	_
3	love	love	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	5	nsubj	_	_
4	always	always	ADV	RB	PronType=Tot	5	advmod	_	_
5	shows	show	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	1	acl:relcl	_	_
6	up	up	ADP	RP	_	5	compound:prt	_	_
7	as	as	ADP	IN	_	8	case	_	_
8	tears	tear	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	5	obl	_	_
9	on	on	ADP	IN	_	12	case	_	_
10	the	the	DET	DT	Definite=Def|PronType=Art	12	det	_	_
11	very	very	ADV	RB	_	12	advmod	_	_
12	day	day	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	5	obl	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **show up** | present | love | True *not said here* |  |  | day | as tears; always *property* | vn appear-48.1.1 «PP.location V NP»: agent=Location true=Theme |

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