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title: Ollie's mate, a Gen Z teen, says, «Bro, at least you've still got yo… — When a friend's mum or dad dies: what… · tree and pragmatics
description: Ollie's mate, a Gen Z teen, says, «Bro, at least you've still got your mum, so it's not that deep.» («It's not that deep» means «it's no big deal».) What is the better thing to say? Test 1 · ★★★ of lesson 61 «When a friend's mum or dad dies: what to say and do» of the religion ethics course of Mova'
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# Test 1 · ★★★ · When a friend's mum or dad dies: what to say and do

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Ollie's mate, a Gen Z teen, says, «Bro, at least you've still got your mum, so it's not that deep.» («It's not that deep» means «it's no big deal».) What is the better thing to say?

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**Mova's choice:** option 1 · **The right answer:** option 3 · wrong ✗ · **Who acts:** mate, you, Bro, deep, better thing · **What happens:** say, get, not be, mean, be · **To what, where:** Bro, mum, least, big deal · **Speech:** someone speaks here

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This is test 1 · ★★★ of lesson 61 «When a friend's mum or dad dies: what to say and do» of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school. The page gives the question's syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause, then the 4 options as the student saw them, each with its tree and pragmatics. Every text is parsed by Mova itself. How the student answered it, with the score of every option and why: [the test at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do/#t1).

## The question {#question}

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*Sentence 1:* Ollie's mate, a Gen Z teen, says, «Bro, at least you've still got your mum, so it's not that deep.»

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:1
# text = Ollie's mate, a Gen Z teen, says, «Bro, at least you've still got your mum, so it's not that deep.»
1	Ollie	Ollie	PROPN	NNP	Number=Sing	3	nmod:poss	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	's	's	PART	POS	_	1	case	_	_
3	mate	mate	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	10	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
4	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	8	punct	_	_
5	a	a	DET	DT	Definite=Ind|PronType=Art	8	det	_	_
6	Gen	Gen	PROPN	NNP	Number=Sing	8	compound	_	_
7	Z	z	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	8	compound	_	_
8	teen	teen	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	3	conj	_	SpaceAfter=No
9	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	3	punct	_	_
10	says	say	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
11	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	13	punct	_	_
12	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	13	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
13	Bro	bro	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	10	obj	_	SpaceAfter=No
14	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	20	punct	_	_
15	at	at	ADP	IN	_	16	case	_	_
16	least	least	ADJ	JJS	Degree=Sup	20	obl	_	_
17	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	20	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
18	've	have	AUX	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	20	aux	_	_
19	still	still	ADV	RB	_	20	advmod	_	_
20	got	get	VERB	VBN	Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part	13	acl:relcl	_	_
21	your	your	PRON	PRP$	Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs	22	nmod:poss	_	_
22	mum	mum	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	20	obj	_	SpaceAfter=No
23	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	29	punct	_	_
24	so	so	ADV	RB	_	29	advmod	_	_
25	it	it	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	29	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
26	's	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	29	cop	_	_
27	not	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	29	advmod	_	_
28	that	that	ADV	RB	_	29	advmod	_	_
29	deep	deep	ADV	RB	_	10	conj	_	SpaceAfter=No
30	.	.	PUNCT	.	_	10	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
31	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	10	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **say** *speech: assert* | present | Ollie's mate and a Gen Z teen | Bro |  |  |  |  | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V NP.topic»: agent=Agent bro=Topic |
| 2 | **get** *in a quote* | present · perfect | you | your mum |  | least | still |  | vn get-13.5.1-1 «NP V NP PP.source NP.asset»: agent=Agent mum=Theme at least=Asset |
| 3 | **not** **is** *in a quote* | present | Bro |  |  |  |  | deep, that *property* | tree rules |

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One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree.

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*Sentence 2:* («It's not that deep» means «it's no big deal».)

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:2
# text = («It's not that deep» means «it's no big deal».)
1	(	(	PUNCT	-LRB-	_	9	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	7	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
3	It	it	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	7	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
4	's	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	7	cop	_	_
5	not	not	PART	RB	Polarity=Neg	7	advmod	_	_
6	that	that	ADV	RB	_	7	advmod	_	_
7	deep	deep	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	9	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
8	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	7	punct	_	_
9	means	mean	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
10	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	15	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
11	it	it	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	15	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
12	's	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	15	cop	_	_
13	no	no	DET	DT	PronType=Neg	15	det	_	_
14	big	big	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	15	amod	_	_
15	deal	deal	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	9	obj	_	SpaceAfter=No
16	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	15	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
17	.	.	PUNCT	.	_	9	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
18	)	)	PUNCT	-RRB-	_	9	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **not** **is** *in a quote* | present | Bro |  |  |  |  | deep, that *property* | tree rules |
| 2 | **mean** | present | deep |  |  |  |  |  | vn intend-61.2-1 «NP V S»: agent=Agent |
| 3 | **is a** *in a quote* | present | Bro | no big deal |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

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*Sentence 3:* What is the better thing to say?

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:3
# text = What is the better thing to say?
1	What	what	PRON	WP	PronType=Int	0	root	_	_
2	is	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	1	cop	_	_
3	the	the	DET	DT	Definite=Def|PronType=Art	5	det	_	_
4	better	good	ADJ	JJR	Degree=Cmp	5	amod	_	_
5	thing	thing	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	1	nsubj	_	_
6	to	to	PART	TO	_	7	mark	_	_
7	say	say	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	5	acl	_	SpaceAfter=No
8	?	?	PUNCT	.	_	1	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **is a** | present | the better thing |  |  |  |  |  | tree rules |
| 2 | **say** *speech: assert* | to-infinitive | the better thing *not said here* |  |  |  |  |  | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V that S»: agent=Agent |

## The options {#options}

### Option 1 · ← Mova's choice {#o1}

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Nothing at all, and quietly stop being his friend

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:o1:1
# text = Nothing at all, and quietly stop being his friend
1	Nothing	nothing	PRON	NN	Number=Sing|PronType=Neg	0	root	_	_
2	at	at	ADP	IN	_	3	case	_	_
3	all	all	DET	DT	PronType=Tot	1	nmod	_	SpaceAfter=No
4	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	7	punct	_	_
5	and	and	CCONJ	CC	_	7	cc	_	_
6	quietly	quietly	ADV	RB	_	7	advmod	_	_
7	stop	stop	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	1	conj	_	_
8	being	be	AUX	VBG	Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part	10	cop	_	_
9	his	his	PRON	PRP$	Case=Gen|Gender=Masc|Number=Sing|Person=3|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs	10	nmod:poss	_	_
10	friend	friend	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	7	xcomp	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **stop** | infinitive |  |  |  |  |  | quietly *property* | vn stop-55.4-1-1 «NP.eventuality V»: agent=Eventuality |
| 2 | **is a** | gerund |  | his friend |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

### Option 2 {#o2}

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«Your dad was kinda mid anyway, so it's fine, bro»

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```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:o2:1
# text = «Your dad was kinda mid anyway, so it's fine, bro»
1	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	12	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	Your	your	PRON	PRP$	Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs	3	nmod:poss	_	_
3	dad	dad	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	12	nsubj	_	_
4	was	be	AUX	VBD	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Past|VerbForm=Fin	6	cop	_	_
5	kinda	kinda	ADV	RB	_	6	advmod	_	_
6	mid	mid	X	AFX	_	3	acl:relcl	_	_
7	anyway	anyway	ADV	RB	_	6	advmod	_	SpaceAfter=No
8	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	12	punct	_	_
9	so	so	ADV	RB	_	12	advmod	_	_
10	it	it	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	12	expl	_	SpaceAfter=No
11	's	be	AUX	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	12	cop	_	_
12	fine	fine	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
13	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	14	punct	_	_
14	bro	bro	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	12	vocative	_	SpaceAfter=No
15	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	12	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **is** *in a quote* | present | Your dad |  |  |  |  | bro *vocative*; fine *property* | tree rules |

### Option 3 · ✓ the right answer {#o3}

<!-- .ven lang=en -->
«I'm really sorry about your dad», then listen

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:o3:1
# text = «I'm really sorry about your dad», then listen
1	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	5	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	I	I	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs	5	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
3	'm	be	AUX	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	5	cop	_	_
4	really	really	ADV	RB	_	5	advmod	_	_
5	sorry	sorry	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	0	root	_	_
6	about	about	ADP	IN	_	8	case	_	_
7	your	your	PRON	PRP$	Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs	8	nmod:poss	_	_
8	dad	dad	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	5	obl	_	SpaceAfter=No
9	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	5	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
10	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	12	punct	_	_
11	then	then	ADV	RB	PronType=Dem	12	advmod	_	_
12	listen	listen	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	5	conj	_	_
```

<!-- .fr -->
| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **is** *in a quote* | present | I |  |  |  |  | about your dad; sorry *property* | tree rules |
| 2 | **listen** | infinitive | I *not said here* |  |  |  | then |  | vn peer-30.3 «NP V PP.theme»: agent=Agent |

### Option 4 {#o4}

<!-- .ven lang=en -->
Say «at least» again, only louder this time so he hears

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:61-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do:t1:o4:1
# text = Say «at least» again, only louder this time so he hears
1	Say	say	VERB	VB	Mood=Imp|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
2	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	4	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
3	at	at	ADP	IN	_	4	case	_	_
4	least	least	ADJ	JJS	Degree=Sup	1	ccomp	_	SpaceAfter=No
5	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	4	punct	_	_
6	again	again	ADV	RB	_	1	advmod	_	SpaceAfter=No
7	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	9	punct	_	_
8	only	only	ADV	RB	_	9	advmod	_	_
9	louder	loud	ADJ	JJR	Degree=Cmp	1	parataxis	_	_
10	this	this	DET	DT	Number=Sing|PronType=Dem	11	det	_	_
11	time	time	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	9	obl:unmarked	_	_
12	so	so	ADV	RB	_	14	advmod	_	_
13	he	he	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Masc|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	14	nsubj	_	_
14	hears	hear	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	1	advcl	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **say** *speech: assert* | imperative | you *not said here* |  |  |  | again |  | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V that S»: agent=Agent |
| 2 | **hear** | present | he |  |  |  |  |  | vn see-30.1-1-1 «NP V PP.stimulus»: agent=Experiencer |

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