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title: Myth to check: «If you stop crying, it means you've forgotten them.» — When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets… · tree and pragmatics
description: Myth to check: «If you stop crying, it means you've forgotten them.» Test 11 · ★ of lesson 69 «When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer» of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, with the dependency tree and pragmatics of the question and of each option; Mova's choice was wrong.
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# Test 11 · ★ · When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer

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Myth to check: «If you stop crying, it means you've forgotten them.»

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**Mova's choice:** option 1 · **The right answer:** option 3 · wrong ✗ · **Who acts:** Myth, you, it · **What happens:** check, stop, cry, mean, forget · **To what, where:** them · **Speech:** someone speaks here

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This is test 11 · ★ of lesson 69 «When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer» of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school. The page gives the question's syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause, then the 4 options as the student saw them, each with its tree and pragmatics. Every text is parsed by Mova itself. How the student answered it, with the score of every option and why: [the test at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/#t11).

## The question {#question}

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer:t11:1
# text = Myth to check: «If you stop crying, it means you've forgotten them.»
1	Myth	myth	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	3	nsubj	_	_
2	to	to	PART	TO	_	3	mark	_	_
3	check	check	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	0	root	_	SpaceAfter=No
4	:	:	PUNCT	:	_	12	punct	_	_
5	«	«	PUNCT	``	_	12	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
6	If	if	SCONJ	IN	_	8	mark	_	_
7	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	8	nsubj	_	_
8	stop	stop	VERB	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	12	advcl	_	_
9	crying	cry	VERB	VBG	VerbForm=Ger	8	xcomp	_	SpaceAfter=No
10	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	8	punct	_	_
11	it	it	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Gender=Neut|Number=Sing|Person=3|PronType=Prs	12	nsubj	_	_
12	means	mean	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	3	parataxis	_	_
13	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	15	nsubj	_	SpaceAfter=No
14	've	have	AUX	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	15	aux	_	_
15	forgotten	forget	VERB	VBN	Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part	12	ccomp	_	_
16	them	they	PRON	PRP	Case=Acc|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs	15	obj	_	SpaceAfter=No
17	.	.	PUNCT	.	_	3	punct	_	SpaceAfter=No
18	»	»	PUNCT	''	_	3	punct	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **check** | to-infinitive | Myth |  |  |  |  |  | tree rules |
| 2 | **stop** *a condition, not said to happen, in a quote* | present | you |  |  |  |  |  | vn stop-55.4-1-1 «NP V S\_ING»: agent=Affector clause=Eventuality |
| 3 | **cry** *speech: express* *in a quote* | gerund | you *not said here* |  |  |  |  |  | vn manner\_speaking-37.3 «NP V»: agent=Agent |
| 4 | **mean** *in a quote* | present | it |  |  |  |  |  | vn intend-61.2-1 «NP V S»: agent=Agent clause=Topic |
| 5 | **forget** *in a quote* | present · perfect | you | them *= they* |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

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One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree.

## The options {#options}

### Option 1 · ← Mova's choice {#o1}

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True; healing means forgetting

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer:t11:o1:1
# text = True; healing means forgetting
1	True	true	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	3	amod	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	;	;	PUNCT	,	_	1	punct	_	_
3	healing	healing	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	4	nsubj	_	_
4	means	mean	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
5	forgetting	forget	VERB	VBG	VerbForm=Ger	4	xcomp	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **mean** | present | True healing |  |  |  |  |  | vn intend-61.2-1 «NP V S»: agent=Agent clause=Topic |
| 2 | **forget** *not said to happen* | gerund | True healing *not said here* |  |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

### Option 2 {#o2}

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False, but only after ten years

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer:t11:o2:1
# text = False, but only after ten years
1	False	false	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	7	amod	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	7	punct	_	_
3	but	but	CCONJ	CC	_	7	cc	_	_
4	only	only	ADV	RB	_	7	advmod	_	_
5	after	after	ADP	IN	_	7	case	_	_
6	ten	ten	NUM	CD	NumForm=Word|NumType=Card	7	nummod	_	_
7	years	year	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	0	root	_	_
```

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The frames reader finds no event or fact in this sentence.

### Option 3 · ✓ the right answer {#o3}

<!-- .ven lang=en -->
False; you can heal without forgetting

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer:t11:o3:1
# text = False; you can heal without forgetting
1	False	false	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	5	advcl	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	;	;	PUNCT	:	_	5	punct	_	_
3	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	5	nsubj	_	_
4	can	can	AUX	MD	VerbForm=Fin	5	aux	_	_
5	heal	heal	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	0	root	_	_
6	without	without	SCONJ	IN	_	7	mark	_	_
7	forgetting	forget	VERB	VBG	Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part	5	advcl	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **heal** | can | you |  |  |  |  |  | vn other\_cos-45.4 «NP.patient V»: agent=Patient |
| 2 | **forget** | gerund | you *not said here* |  |  |  |  |  | tree rules |

### Option 4 {#o4}

<!-- .ven lang=en -->
True; tears are the only proof of love

```conllu
# sent_id = question:religion-ethics:69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer:t11:o4:1
# text = True; tears are the only proof of love
1	True	true	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	3	amod	_	SpaceAfter=No
2	;	;	PUNCT	:	_	1	punct	_	_
3	tears	tear	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	7	nsubj	_	_
4	are	be	AUX	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	7	cop	_	_
5	the	the	DET	DT	Definite=Def|PronType=Art	7	det	_	_
6	only	only	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	7	amod	_	_
7	proof	proof	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	0	root	_	_
8	of	of	ADP	IN	_	9	case	_	_
9	love	love	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	7	nmod	_	_
```

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **is a** | present | True tears | the only proof |  |  |  | of love | tree rules |

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**Text:** the tests of Mova's primary school, written for Mova (`world/data/school/`), as the course runner gave them to the student. **Trees:** Mova's own parse — the `en` model on the CPU, when the site is built — not checked by a teacher; they may be wrong. **Frames:** Mova's frames reader (`prag`), each text read on its own. Elamur Cosmic License.

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