--- title: Grown-ups who argue and make up — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Grown-ups who argue and make up», a lesson of the adult life course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Grown-ups who love each other still disagree, sometimes loudly, because two people sharing a home, money and children will not always w --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Adult life](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/) / Grown-ups who argue and make up # Grown-ups who argue and make up Lesson 14 of the adult life course of Mova's primary school: 16 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/0/) — Grown-ups who love each other still disagree, sometimes loudly, because two people sharing a home, money and children will not always want the same things. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/1/) — Most arguments end, people say sorry in words or with a kind gesture, and life goes back to normal; when things stay hard for a while, couples may get help from a counsellor. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/2/) — Picture a house in Melbourne: you hear raised voices downstairs after bedtime, next morning Mum says "Tell your father his breakfast's ready", and that evening Dad walks in with flowers and an awkward grin. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/3/) — None of this is a child's job to fix, and none of it is a child's fault; you are allowed to say you felt worried, and to ask "Is everything okay?" - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/4/) — An anniversary is the yearly date of when a couple married or got together, so a "15th Anniversary" card means fifteen years. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/5/) — Raised voices downstairs after bedtime usually mean parents are arguing, and they often wait until children are in bed so they will not get upset. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/6/) — "Not in front of the children" means the grown-ups need to talk about something serious and want to protect you from worry, not that you did something wrong. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/7/) — "Tell your father his dinner's ready" is the silent treatment: someone so cross they will not speak to the other person directly. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/8/) — The silent treatment usually makes things worse, and children should not have to carry messages between upset grown-ups. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/9/) — Coming home with flowers the day after a row is making up, a way of saying sorry and wanting to be friends again. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/10/) — A rough patch is a hard time in a relationship, with more arguing or unhappiness, and many couples come through it. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/11/) — Disagreeing is normal; talking it through is how couples decide things together. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/12/) — A parent sleeping on the sofa for a few nights may mean a disagreement, or something simple like snoring or a bad back. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/13/) — "Going to see someone to help us talk" means visiting a counsellor, a trained person who helps couples understand each other, which is a sensible, hopeful step. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/14/) — Grown-ups in love show affection with hugs and kisses, and it is normal for children to find it embarrassing. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/14-grown-ups-who-argue-and-make-up/15/) — Grown-ups call very sweet romantic film scenes "soppy", and children are allowed to look away or roll their eyes. - ← previous: [Dates, engagements and weddings](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/13-dates-engagements-and-weddings/) - next →: [When parents separate](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/15-when-parents-separate/) - ↑ back to [Adult life](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/adult-life/)