--- title: Family changes and grief — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Family changes and grief», a lesson of the everyday course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Families change: a new baby arrives, parents separate, step-families form, and sometimes someone we love dies. --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/) / Family changes and grief # Family changes and grief Lesson 214 of the everyday course of Mova's primary school: 22 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/0/) — Families change: a new baby arrives, parents separate, step-families form, and sometimes someone we love dies. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/1/) — Babies cry because crying is the only way they can tell us they are hungry, tired or uncomfortable, so we are patient. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/2/) — When parents divorce, a child should not be put in the middle; you can say you love both and do not want to choose. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/3/) — When someone dies, their body has stopped working forever and they cannot come back; death is not like sleep, and sleeping does not make anyone die. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/4/) — A boy in Boston feels it was his fault that his grandpa died because he had been cross with him; his mum explains that thoughts and wishes can never make someone die, and they make a memory box together. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/5/) — Babies cry to tell us they are hungry, tired or uncomfortable, because crying is the only way a baby can talk. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/6/) — Grandparents' stories about the old days are family history that only they can tell, so you listen and ask questions. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/7/) — When grandparents have different rules, you follow the rules of the house you are in, kindly. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/8/) — If one parent says bad things about the other, you can say you love both and do not want to choose; children should not be put in the middle. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/9/) — Blended families take time to work out, so step-brothers and step-sisters find things they all enjoy and give each other space. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/10/) — If you are adopted or in foster care, you share only what you want; your story is yours to tell or keep. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/11/) — After a pet dies, you wait a while and talk with your family before getting a new one; you need time to grieve, and a new pet does not replace the old one. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/12/) — When someone you love dies, it helps to ask questions, cry, talk about them and keep a memory box. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/13/) — Grief is normal, and sharing it helps. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/14/) — Death means the body has stopped working forever, and the person cannot come back. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/15/) — Sleeping does not cause death. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/16/) — Thoughts and wishes cannot make someone die, so it is never a child's fault. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/17/) — After his grandad died, a boy in Wales kept all his sadness inside and began getting stomach aches every day; when he finally talked with his mum and a school counsellor (a person at school whose job is to listen and help with feelings), the aches eased. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/18/) — When her parents split up, a girl in California believed it was her fault and stopped seeing her friends; it was not her fault at all, and talking to both parents helped her understand. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/19/) — Children who keep grief hidden often feel it in their bodies as headaches, stomach aches or trouble sleeping. - [20](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/20/) — When parents separate, it is never the child's fault, and children feel better when they can ask questions and talk. - [21](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/214-family-changes-and-grief/21/) — Grown-ups have gentle phrases for these things: «going our separate ways» means a couple is splitting up, and «the love of my life» means the person someone loved most. - ← previous: [Sadness, jealousy, boredom, pride and brothers and sisters](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/213-sad-jealous-bored-and-proud/) - next →: [Speaking up, saying no and growing up](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/215-speaking-up-saying-no-and-growing-up/) - ↑ back to [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/)