--- title: Good pressure, good and bad secrets, and owning up — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Good pressure, good and bad secrets, and owning up», a lesson of the everyday course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Peer pressure is not always bad. --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/) / Good pressure, good and bad secrets, a… # Good pressure, good and bad secrets, and owning up Lesson 285 of the everyday course of Mova's primary school: 28 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/0/) — Peer pressure is not always bad. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/1/) — When friends encourage you to join a team or try a new food, it can help you grow, as long as it is safe. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/2/) — There are two kinds of secrets. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/3/) — A good secret, like a surprise party or a hidden present, ends happily and nobody gets hurt. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/4/) — Private things a friend trusts you with, like wetting the bed sometimes, are also kept, because sharing them would only embarrass them. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/5/) — A bad secret is one that hides harm or danger. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/7/) — Secrets like these are never okay to keep, and it is never your fault. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/8/) — Example: a boy in Vancouver knocks over his grandma's vase. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/9/) — He feels scared, but he goes straight to her and says sorry. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/10/) — She is sad about the vase but proud of him for telling her. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/11/) — Adults are usually less upset about honesty than about lies. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/12/) — Owning up early is easier than later: a lost jacket is easier to find on the first day, and a library book is easier to replace before the fines grow. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/14/) — A good secret, like a surprise for someone, ends happily and nobody gets hurt. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/15/) — If someone touches you in a way that feels wrong and says «it's our secret», tell a trusted adult as soon as you can; it is never your fault. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/16/) — Secrets about touching are never okay to keep, and trusted adults will help. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/17/) — Keep a friend's private, harmless worries, like wetting the bed, to yourself; sharing them would embarrass them. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/18/) — If a friend shows you a weapon or says they will bring one to school, tell an adult right away; it is a danger to everyone. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/19/) — If you find out about a present, keep quiet and act surprised; spoiling it takes the joy from the giver. - [20](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/20/) — If you break something, tell an adult straight away and say sorry; adults are usually less upset about honesty than about lies. - [21](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/21/) — If you lose a library book, tell the librarian; you may need to pay or replace it, and honesty lets the problem be fixed. - [22](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/22/) — If you accidentally hurt a friend, stop, check they are okay and say sorry; caring about them matters more than whose fault it was. - [23](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/23/) — Owning up to small things shows you are trustworthy in big things too. - [24](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/24/) — If you lose something a friend lent you, tell them quickly and help find or replace it; waiting makes it harder. - [25](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/25/) — A boy in Leeds kept quiet when a friend showed him a knife in his bag; a few days later another pupil was cut in a fight, and he wished he had told a teacher. - [26](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/26/) — A girl in Texas broke her neighbour's window with a ball and hid; when it came out, the neighbour was more hurt by the hiding than the window, and it took a long time to make friends again. - [27](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/27/) — A secret about touching, weapons, someone being hurt or a child being made to feel scared and unsafe at home is never one to keep; telling a trusted adult is the right thing. - [28](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/28/) — When a big brother or sister says «tell anyone and I'll kill you» about something embarrassing, like a crush, it usually just means «please keep this private», not a real threat; you keep out of it. - [29](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/285-good-secrets-bad-secrets-and-owning-up/29/) — Owning up early usually makes the trouble smaller, and hiding usually makes it bigger. - ← previous: [Facts, opinions, clickbait and saying no to dares](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/284-facts-opinions-and-saying-no-to-dares/) - next →: [Being trusted and what to do with things you find](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/286-being-trusted-and-things-you-find/) - ↑ back to [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/)