--- title: Parents who row, and one kind and one not — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Parents who row, and one kind and one not», a lesson of the everyday course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: A «row» (it rhymes with «cow») is a British word for a loud argument. --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/) / Parents who row, and one kind and one… # Parents who row, and one kind and one not Lesson 496 of the everyday course of Mova's primary school: 38 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/0/) — A «row» (it rhymes with «cow») is a British word for a loud argument. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/1/) — In Belfast, Rian hears Mum and Dad going at it downstairs again: «Catch yerself on!» «No, YOU catch yerself on!» («catch yourself on» is Northern Irish for «stop being daft»). - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/2/) — He puts his headphones on and turns the music right up, and lies there thinking, «Are they gonna split up?» Most parents row sometimes, about money, work, tiredness or whose turn it is to do the bins. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/3/) — A row is a grown-up problem, and it is never the child's fault. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/4/) — In Bath, Isabelle hears «We can't keep doing this!» and then a door slams so hard the pictures shake. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/5/) — She is sure it is about the money for her school trip. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/6/) — It isn't, not really: grown-ups row about bills and stress, and children often wrongly think they caused it. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/7/) — In Auckland, Kiana hears a huge row at tea time, and an hour later Mum and Dad are laughing in the kitchen. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/9/) — Kiana doesn't know which mood is real. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/10/) — Both are: people who love each other can row and make up. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/11/) — Some families have one warm parent and one cold or harsh one. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/12/) — In Bristol, Marisol shows her horse drawing. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/13/) — Mum says, «Lush!» (Bristol and Welsh for «lovely»). - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/14/) — Dad says, «The horse looks like a dog.» In Kent, Fergus wins a silver medal; Mum hugs him, Dad says, «Only silver?» It hurts. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/15/) — You can tell the warm parent how it feels, and you can still love both. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/17/) — Sometimes the row is about you. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/19/) — He isn't: parents arguing about how to bring up a child is common, and it's about them. - [20](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/20/) — In Ohio, Dad is a «my way or the highway» guy (it means «do it my way or leave») and says no to Nate's soccer team, so Mom sneaks him to practice. - [21](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/21/) — Nate feels stuck in the middle. - [22](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/22/) — It's fair to say, «I don't want to be in the middle. - [23](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/23/) — Can you two sort it out?» - [25](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/25/) — In Toronto, Ambrose's parents row in French so he won't understand, eh. - [26](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/26/) — He does, every word, and pretends he doesn't. - [27](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/27/) — In London, Leila goes to Dad for every treat because Mum says no: «Dad's well soft, innit.» Mum ends up feeling like «the bad guy», and that causes more rows. - [28](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/28/) — In Belfast, when Roisin's friend sleeps over and whispers, «Is your house always like this?», Roisin wants the floor to swallow her. - [29](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/29/) — Loud rows are uncomfortable; rows that turn physical or frightening are different, and then you tell a teacher, a trusted adult or Childline (0800 1111). - [30](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/30/) — A «row» is a British word for a loud argument; most parents row sometimes. - [31](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/31/) — Parents often row about money, work, stress and tiredness. - [32](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/32/) — Children often think a row is their fault, but grown-up rows are grown-up problems and never the child's fault. - [33](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/33/) — Rowing does not always mean parents will split up; people who love each other can row and make up. - [34](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/34/) — When a row is about how to bring you up, it is about the parents' ideas, not about you being bad. - [35](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/35/) — Sometimes one parent is warm and the other is harsh or cold; you can tell the warm parent how you feel and still love both. - [36](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/36/) — It is fair to ask not to be put in the middle of your parents' disagreement. - [37](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/37/) — Playing one parent against the other to get treats usually causes more rows and backfires. - [38](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/38/) — Children often understand far more of a row than grown-ups think; you can tell them you hear it. - [39](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/39/) — If rows ever turn physical or frightening, tell a teacher, a trusted adult or Childline (0800 1111 in the UK). - [40](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/40/) — «Lush» means lovely in Bristol and Wales; «sweet as» means all fine in New Zealand; «catch yourself on» means stop being daft in Northern Ireland. - [41](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/496-parents-who-row-and-one-kind-and-one-not/41/) — «My way or the highway» means «do it my way or go», said by someone who won't bend. - ← previous: [Cold parents: always on the phone](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/495-cold-parents-always-on-the-phone/) - next →: [Tired, sad or drinking parents: tell a trusted adult](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/497-tired-sad-or-drinking-parents-tell-a-trusted-adult/) - ↑ back to [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/)