--- title: Solving disagreements calmly — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Solving disagreements calmly», a lesson of the everyday course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Disagreements happen between all people, even best friends and loving families; they are a normal part of life, and what matters is how we s --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/) / Solving disagreements calmly # Solving disagreements calmly Lesson 54 of the everyday course of Mova's primary school: 19 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/0/) — Disagreements happen between all people, even best friends and loving families; they are a normal part of life, and what matters is how we solve them. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/1/) — First cool down: an angry brain shouts and grabs, while a calm brain can think and listen, so stop, breathe and take a short break if you need one. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/2/) — Then use words, not hands: say how you feel with an «I» sentence («I feel upset when you take my pens without asking»), and then listen to the other side without interrupting. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/3/) — Last, look for a fair way that works for both: take turns, share, split the time, choose together, or meet in the middle, which is called a compromise. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/4/) — Two brothers in Melbourne both want the TV; after cooling down, they agree that one watches his show now and the other picks the film after dinner, and nobody has to cry. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/5/) — Two boys in Leeds started arguing over a ball and it turned into a shove; one fell, hit his head on the ground and needed stitches. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/6/) — A girl in California sent an angry message in the middle of a row; it was shared around the class, and the friendship took months to mend. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/7/) — Disagreements are normal, even between good friends. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/8/) — It is easier to solve a problem when everyone is calm. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/9/) — Hitting, kicking or grabbing never solves a disagreement fairly. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/11/) — Listening to the other side helps you understand why they are upset. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/12/) — A compromise is when each side gives a little so that both are fairly happy. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/13/) — Taking turns, sharing and splitting time are fair ways to solve many quarrels; when nobody saw clearly what happened in a game, doing it again, such as replaying the point, is fair. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/14/) — A real apology says what you did wrong and does not add an excuse. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/15/) — If you cannot solve a problem, or someone is getting hurt, you ask an adult to help. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/16/) — Sometimes both people are a little bit right. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/17/) — Flipping a coin is a fair way to decide when both choices are equally good. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/18/) — A small argument that turns into pushing can end with someone badly hurt. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/54-solving-disagreements-calmly/19/) — Things said or sent in anger are hard to take back. - ← previous: [Feelings and calming down](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/53-feelings-and-calming-down/) - next →: [Bullying and how to stop it](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/55-bullying/) - ↑ back to [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/)