--- title: Grandparents, divorce and step-families — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Grandparents, divorce and step-families», a lesson of the everyday course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Grandparents carry family history that only they can tell; listening to their stories and asking questions is a gift to both of y --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/) / Grandparents, divorce and step-families # Grandparents, divorce and step-families Lesson 96 of the everyday course of Mova's primary school: 20 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/0/) — Grandparents carry family history that only they can tell; listening to their stories and asking questions is a gift to both of you, and if a grandparent becomes forgetful because of an illness like dementia, they still love you and need patience. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/1/) — Different homes have different rules, and kindly following the rules of the house you are in keeps everyone happy. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/2/) — Divorce is about the grown-ups' relationship, not about the children: it is never the child's fault, both parents still love them, and children should never be put in the middle, carrying messages or choosing sides. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/3/) — Step-families and blended families take time to work out; being polite and giving each other time and space helps, and if you are adopted or fostered, your story is yours to share or keep. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/5/) — Grandparents' stories are family history that only they can tell. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/6/) — Some older people get memory illnesses like dementia, and they still love their family. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/7/) — Being patient and reminding kindly helps a forgetful grandparent. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/8/) — Follow the rules of the house you are in, kindly. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/9/) — Divorce is never the child's fault, and both parents still love the child. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/10/) — Children should not be asked to choose between parents or put in the middle. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/11/) — Carrying messages between parents is not a child's job. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/12/) — Most divorces are final, and accepting this helps a child heal. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/13/) — Getting close to a new step-parent takes time for everyone, so be polite and patient. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/14/) — Blended families get on better when they find shared activities and give each other space. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/15/) — An adopted or fostered child can choose what to share about their story. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/16/) — A boy in Ohio believed his parents' divorce was his fault and kept it secret for a year; he became quiet and angry until a counsellor helped him see it was not his fault at all. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/17/) — A girl in Sydney did not want to visit her grandma in hospital, and later wished she had; she wrote her a letter instead and her grandma kept it by the bed. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/18/) — Children often wrongly believe their parents' divorce is their fault; it never is. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/19/) — When a parent marries again (remarries), the new husband or wife becomes the child's step-parent, so a child can have a dad and a stepdad. - [21](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/96-grandparents-divorce-and-step-families/21/) — Bottling up strong feelings about big family changes can make children withdrawn, angry or unwell. - ← previous: [A new baby, looking after siblings and living with parents](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/95-babies-siblings-and-parents/) - next →: [Moving, new schools, change and grief](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/97-moving-change-and-grief/) - ↑ back to [Everyday](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/everyday/)