--- title: Reflection — a course of Mova's primary school, with trees and pragmatics description: Hard feelings and how they pass: grief and loss, letting a friend down and making it right, fear that stays after danger, humiliation and embarrassment, parents shouting or splitting up, loneliness, jealousy and anger. The lessons teach Mova the inner states behind what people say and do. 32 lessons --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / Reflection # Reflection Hard feelings and how they pass: grief and loss, letting a friend down and making it right, fear that stays after danger, humiliation and embarrassment, parents shouting or splitting up, loneliness, jealousy and anger. The lessons teach Mova the inner states behind what people say and do. The reflection course of Mova's primary school: 32 lessons, 581 sentences, each sentence with its syntax tree and pragmatics. Licence: [CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/) (Mova corpus 0.4). - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief/) — When someone dies: guilt, numbness and waves of grief — 21 sentences · Grief is the deep sadness after someone you love dies, and it does not move in a straight line: it comes in… - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/2-grief-has-no-timetable-houses-anniversaries-and-big-questions/) — Grief has no timetable: houses, anniversaries and big questions — 18 sentences · Grief has no timetable: it does not stop on a set day, and it can be stirred up again by a house, a date, a… - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/3-living-with-loss-keeping-memories-and-loss-that-isn-t-death/) — Living with loss: keeping memories, and loss that isn't death — 18 sentences · After a loss, the things you used to do with someone can hurt at first, and later turn into the very things… - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/4-letting-a-friend-down-broken-promises-and-spilled-secrets/) — Letting a friend down: broken promises and spilled secrets — 17 sentences · Letting someone down leaves a special kind of sting: you replay the moment, picture their face, and call you… - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/5-when-it-was-my-fault-owning-up-and-making-it-right/) — When it was my fault: owning up and making it right — 17 sentences · Sometimes the bad thing really was partly your fault, and the honest job is to own your part without drownin… - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/6-bitten-lost-hurt-when-fear-stays-after-the-danger/) — Bitten, lost, hurt: when fear stays after the danger — 17 sentences · After something scary, the danger is over in minutes, but the fear can stay for weeks: the brain has learned… - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/7-chased-trapped-frightened-scary-moments-that-come-back-at-night/) — Chased, trapped, frightened: scary moments that come back at night — 18 sentences · Some scary moments come back at night like a film you can't switch off: the shout, the smoke, the bang, play… - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/8-scary-things-in-the-world-news-strangers-war-and-what-ifs/) — Scary things in the world: news, strangers, war and what-ifs — 18 sentences · Some fears come from things that happened to us, and some from things we hear about: a drill, a news report,… - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/9-humiliated-in-front-of-everyone-the-moment-that-won-t-go-away/) — Humiliated in front of everyone: the moment that won't go away — 18 sentences · Being humiliated in front of others burns in a special way: your face goes hot, you want the ground to swall… - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/10-laughed-at-photos-scores-nicknames-and-the-spotlight/) — Laughed at: photos, scores, nicknames and the spotlight — 17 sentences · Being laughed at can happen in a second, on a phone screen or out loud in class, and then live for days in y… - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/11-cringe-that-lasts-getting-over-embarrassing-moments/) — Cringe that lasts: getting over embarrassing moments — 21 sentences · Some embarrassing moments make you cringe for weeks: the memory jumps out when you're cleaning your teeth, a… - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/12-parents-shouting-parents-splitting-it-s-not-your-fault/) — Parents shouting, parents splitting: it's not your fault — 18 sentences · When things go wrong between grown-ups at home, children very often decide, quietly, in bed, that it must be… - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/13-hard-things-at-home-broken-promises-silence-money-and-illness/) — Hard things at home: broken promises, silence, money and illness — 17 sentences · Some hard things at home are not one big bang but a slow drip: a dad who keeps not turning up, a dinner tabl… - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/) — When home feels shaky: rows, hospitals, new babies and big changes — 18 sentences · Home is meant to be the steady place, so when it wobbles, with a row on Christmas Day, a mum in hospital, a… - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/15-the-lie-nobody-found-out-carrying-a-secret/) — The lie nobody found out: carrying a secret — 17 sentences · A lie or a wrong thing that nobody ever finds out does not vanish: it moves inside you and sits there, and i… - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/16-things-im-ashamed-of-crowds-cruelty-and-coming-clean/) — Things I'm ashamed of: crowds, cruelty and coming clean — 20 sentences · Shame is the hot, sinking feeling that comes when you know you did something wrong and you can't stop seeing… - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/17-old-guilt-secrets-that-grow-and-how-to-let-them-go/) — Old guilt: secrets that grow and how to let them go — 18 sentences · Two years ago, in a temper, Chloe pushed her little brother off the trampoline and he chipped his tooth; she… - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/18-the-fight-i-lost-and-the-bullying-i-cant-escape/) — The fight I lost and the bullying I can't escape — 19 sentences · Losing a fight in front of people hurts the pride much more than the body: Connor got pinned down by Liam be… - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/19-picked-on-freeze-outs-robberies-and-standing-up/) — Picked on: freeze-outs, robberies and standing up — 19 sentences · Being picked on day after day makes the dread start the night before: Ethan, whose bag gets pushed off the b… - [20](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/20-fights-racism-and-being-a-bystander/) — Fights, racism and being a bystander — 18 sentences · Some hurts are about losing face, like Rory losing an arm-wrestle to his little cousin at a barbecue while t… - [21](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/21-left-out-the-party-the-new-school-the-third-wheel/) — Left out: the party, the new school, the third wheel — 17 sentences · Being left out feels like a verdict on your whole self: the pink envelopes for Lola's party came out in clas… - [22](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/22-lonely-and-different-accents-big-brothers-and-being-too-much/) — Lonely and different: accents, big brothers and being too much — 19 sentences · Moving to the other side of the world can make your own voice feel like a target: Holly's family moved from… - [23](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/23-when-nobody-sits-with-you-making-friends-again/) — When nobody sits with you: making friends again — 16 sentences · Loneliness can become a circle: three months into a new school, Zainab still ate lunch alone most days, and… - [24](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/24-i-failed-the-missed-penalty-the-lost-race-the-bad-mark/) — I failed: the missed penalty, the lost race, the bad mark — 18 sentences · Failing in front of people gets replayed like a video: Ollie missed the penalty that would have won the cup… - [25](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/) — Disappointed: when things don't go the way you hoped — 20 sentences · Disappointment is the drop you feel when what happens is smaller than what you hoped for: Leah asked for a d… - [26](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/26-the-mind-at-night-replays-worst-case-thinking-and-nightmares/) — The mind at night: replays, worst-case thinking and nightmares — 17 sentences · It's like a rubbish TV channel I can't switch off." - [27](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/27-tricks-the-mind-plays-inner-voices-superstitions-and-being-sure-but-wrong/) — Tricks the mind plays: inner voices, superstitions and being sure but wrong — 18 sentences · One sentence said in a bad moment can move into your head and live there: a month ago Ava's best friend snap… - [28](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/28-reading-people-in-hard-times-whats-really-behind-the-mean-face/) — Reading people in hard times: what's really behind the mean face — 18 sentences · For weeks Kyle's mate Dev kept snapping at him, "Leave it, man, just leave it," and Kyle lay in bed thinking… - [29](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/) — Getting help: when sadness or worry won't go away — 21 sentences · Most sad or worried feelings come and go, but some stay and stay: for two months Alfie felt flat, couldn't b… - [30](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/30-getting-through-it-who-helps-what-helps-and-looking-back/) — Getting through it: who helps, what helps, and looking back — 19 sentences · Months after the worst year of her life, Zoe looks back: Grandad died, her best friend moved away, and she w… - [31](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/31-olympiad-reading-hidden-feelings-in-hard-times/) — Olympiad: reading hidden feelings in hard times ★★★ — 18 sentences · In an olympiad puzzle about feelings, the words people say are only one clue; the face, the timing, what the… - [32](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/32-olympiad-thinking-traps-and-what-helps-first/) — Olympiad: thinking traps and what helps first ★★★ — 16 sentences · Thinking traps are thoughts that feel like facts but bend the truth, and they are loudest at night: "always"… - ← previous: [Politics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/politics/) - next →: [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/) - ↑ back to [the school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/)