--- title: People often avoid someone who is grieving because they are scared o… — When someone dies: guilt, numbness and waves of… · tree and pragmatics description: People often avoid someone who is grieving because they are scared of saying the wrong thing; a short "I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say, but I'm here" is enough. Who acts: People, short. 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The page gives its syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause: who acts (People, short), what happens, when and where, as Mova's frames read it from the tree. ## The tree {#tree} ```conllu # sent_id = school:reflection:001-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief.lesson:13 # text = People often avoid someone who is grieving because they are scared of saying the wrong thing; a short "I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say, but I'm here" is enough. # source = school lesson (ours) # course = reflection # lesson = 001-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief.lesson # annotation = Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R2-punct-next ×1, R5-strong ×1, R6-punct-agree ×1, R7-rel-agree ×1 1 People people NOUN NNS Number=Plur 3 nsubj _ _ 2 often often ADV RB _ 3 advmod _ _ 3 avoid avoid VERB VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 0 root _ _ 4 someone someone PRON NN Number=Sing|PronType=Ind 3 obj _ _ 5 who who PRON WP PronType=Rel 7 nsubj _ _ 6 is be AUX VBZ Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 7 aux _ _ 7 grieving grieve VERB VBG Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part 4 acl:relcl _ _ 8 because because SCONJ IN _ 11 mark _ _ 9 they they PRON PRP Case=Nom|Number=Plur|Person=3|PronType=Prs 11 nsubj _ _ 10 are be AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 11 cop _ _ 11 scared scared ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 7 advcl _ _ 12 of of SCONJ IN _ 13 mark _ _ 13 saying say VERB VBG Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part 11 advcl _ _ 14 the the DET DT Definite=Def|PronType=Art 16 det _ _ 15 wrong wrong ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 16 amod _ _ 16 thing thing NOUN NN Number=Sing 13 obj _ _ 17 ; ; PUNCT , _ 40 punct _ _ 18 a a DET DT Definite=Ind|PronType=Art 19 det _ Agree=R5-strong|Haiku=40:det 19 short short ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 40 nsubj _ _ 20 " " PUNCT `` _ 24 punct _ Agree=R6-punct-agree|Haiku=29:punct 21 I I PRON PRP Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs 24 nsubj _ _ 22 'm be AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 24 cop _ _ 23 so so ADV RB _ 24 advmod _ _ 24 sorry sorry ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 19 parataxis _ _ 25 , , PUNCT , _ 29 punct _ Agree=R2-punct-next|Haiku=24:punct 26 I I PRON PRP Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs 29 nsubj _ _ 27 do do AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 29 aux _ _ 28 n't not PART RB Polarity=Neg 29 advmod _ _ 29 know know VERB VB VerbForm=Inf 24 parataxis _ Agree=R7-rel-agree|Haiku=24:conj 30 what what PRON WP PronType=Int 32 obj _ _ 31 to to PART TO _ 32 mark _ _ 32 say say VERB VB VerbForm=Inf 29 ccomp _ _ 33 , , PUNCT , _ 37 punct _ _ 34 but but CCONJ CC _ 37 cc _ _ 35 I I PRON PRP Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs 37 nsubj _ _ 36 'm be AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 37 cop _ _ 37 here here ADV RB PronType=Dem 19 advmod _ _ 38 " " PUNCT '' _ 19 punct _ _ 39 is be AUX VBZ Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 40 cop _ _ 40 enough enough ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 3 conj _ _ 41 . . PUNCT . _ 3 punct _ _ ``` ## Pragmatics {#pragmatics} - form: statement - act: assert - voice: character - polarity: neg - teacher: kept the draft | # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by | | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | | 1 | **avoid** | present | People | someone | | | | often *property* | vn avoid-52 «NP V NP.location»: agent=Agent someone=Location | | 2 | **grieve** | present · progressive | | | | | | | vn amuse-31.1 «NP V ADV-Middle»: agent=Experiencer | | 3 | **is** | present | people | | | | | scared *property* | tree rules | | 4 | **say** *speech: assert* | gerund | people *not said here* | the wrong thing | | | | | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V NP.topic»: agent=Agent thing=Topic | | 5 | **is** *in a quote* | present | people | | | | | sorry *property* | tree rules | | 6 | **not** **know** *in a quote* | present · do-support | people | | | | | | vn comprehend-87.2-1-1-1 «NP V how S\_INF»: agent=Experiencer clause=Stimulus | | 7 | **say** *speech: assert* *in a quote* | to-infinitive | | | | | | | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V NP.topic»: agent=Agent what=Topic | | 8 | **is** *in a quote* | present | people | | | | | here *property* | tree rules | | 9 | **is** | present | a short | | | | | enough *property* | tree rules | One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree. **Licence: [CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/)**, as the whole of Mova corpus 0.4, of which this treebank (the agreed school, `mova-school-agreed-en.conllu`) is part. The lessons were written for Mova's primary school. Sentence `school:reflection:001-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief.lesson:13`. **The tree:** Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R2-punct-next ×1, R5-strong ×1, R6-punct-agree ×1, R7-rel-agree ×1. **The frames** are read from the tree by Mova's frames reader (`prag`) when this page is built, the lesson read in order, so a pronoun may be resolved from an earlier sentence. See the [release 0.4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/releases/0.4/). - ← previous: [When someone dies: guilt, numbness and…, 12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief/12/) - next →: [When someone dies: guilt, numbness and…, 14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief/14/) - ↑ back to [the lesson](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/1-when-someone-dies-guilt-numbness-and-waves-of-grief/)