--- title: When home feels shaky: rows, hospitals, new babies and big changes — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «When home feels shaky: rows, hospitals, new babies and big changes», a lesson of the reflection course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Home is meant to be the steady place, so when it wobbles, with a row on Christmas Day, a mum in hosp --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/) / When home feels shaky: rows, hospitals… # When home feels shaky: rows, hospitals, new babies and big changes Lesson 14 of the reflection course of Mova's primary school: 18 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/0/) — Home is meant to be the steady place, so when it wobbles, with a row on Christmas Day, a mum in hospital, a new baby or a move nobody is sure about, a child can feel the ground shift under his feet. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/1/) — On Christmas Day Ellie's parents had a row and Mum cried in the kitchen; Ellie sat with her presents thinking, "Christmas is ruined. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/2/) — It's meant to be the best day. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/3/) — Why do they have to do it TODAY?", and for weeks Christmas songs made her feel flat. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/4/) — Holidays can be stressful for grown-ups, with money, cooking and family all at once, and one bad moment does not ruin every Christmas; a walk and hot chocolate on Boxing Day made a new happy memory, and the next December went fine. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/6/) — If home ever feels scary, like a parent throwing things in a temper, tell a trusted adult; it is not telling tales, it is how families get help. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/7/) — Holidays can be stressful for grown-ups because of money, cooking and family; one bad moment does not ruin every holiday after. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/8/) — Making a new happy memory, like a walk and hot chocolate the next day, can help after a spoiled day. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/9/) — Long hospital stays are scary for families; children need honest answers and someone to talk to, and imagining the worst alone makes it harder. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/10/) — Throwing things in a temper is scary and not okay; if you are scared at home, tell a trusted adult, and grown-ups can get help with their anger. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/11/) — After a split, parents sometimes say unkind things about each other ("bad-mouthing"); it is not fair on the child, who can love both parents. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/12/) — Teenagers sometimes run off when they feel overwhelmed; grown-ups and the police help find them, and it is not the younger sibling's fault. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/13/) — Parents can disagree about rules, like when a child gets a phone, without it being a sign of a big problem. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/14/) — Not knowing what will happen, for example about a job or a move, is hard; talking about it as a family helps more than guessing the worst. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/15/) — Grown-ups can have long histories and old hurts with each other ("old wounds"); children do not need to fix them. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/16/) — Sometimes a court decides that a child should not see a parent for a while, to keep the child safe; it is never the child's fault. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/17/) — New babies make everyone tired; it does not mean parents love the older children less, and jealousy is a normal feeling. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/14-when-home-feels-shaky-rows-hospitals-new-babies-and-big-changes/18/) — Special time alone with a parent and helping with the baby can make an older child feel included again. - ← previous: [Hard things at home: broken promises, silence, money and illness](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/13-hard-things-at-home-broken-promises-silence-money-and-illness/) - next →: [The lie nobody found out: carrying a secret](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/15-the-lie-nobody-found-out-carrying-a-secret/) - ↑ back to [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/)