--- title: Disappointed: when things don't go the way you hoped — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Disappointed: when things don't go the way you hoped», a lesson of the reflection course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Disappointment is the drop you feel when what happens is smaller than what you hoped for: Leah asked for a dog eve --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/) / Disappointed: when things don't go the… # Disappointed: when things don't go the way you hoped Lesson 25 of the reflection course of Mova's primary school: 20 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/0/) — Disappointment is the drop you feel when what happens is smaller than what you hoped for: Leah asked for a dog every single day for two years, and on her birthday she got a hamster; in her room she thought: "A HAMSTER? - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/1/) — I asked for a dog. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/2/) — Every single day for two years." - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/3/) — Then a second feeling came on top: guilt for being ungrateful, because her parents had tried; for a week she ignored the hamster; after a few weeks she loved him and called him Pickle. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/4/) — What she understood: disappointment and gratefulness can sit side by side, and both are normal; talking to Mum about the dog dream, instead of pretending, let the big feeling shrink, and learning about hamsters made room for the small one she had. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/5/) — Disappointment comes in many shapes: a burnt cake, a band that plays too fast, a cancelled holiday, a drawing not chosen, a disallowed goal; it usually shrinks over days, and it shrinks faster when you name it, laugh where you can, and see what can still be done. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/6/) — The thoughts that come with it, like "we never do anything fun" or "the ref's blind", are usually bigger and harsher than the facts; the feeling is real, the "never" and "always" usually are not. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/7/) — Disappointment is the feeling when things turn out worse than you hoped; it is normal and usually fades over days or weeks. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/8/) — You can feel disappointed and grateful at the same time; feeling both does not make you a bad person. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/9/) — Talking about the hope that didn't come true often helps more than hiding it. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/10/) — Being compared with a brother or sister can hurt; "in her shadow" means feeling less noticed than someone else, and everyone is good at different things. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/11/) — Kitchen mistakes happen to everyone; turning a mistake into something funny or new can rescue it. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/12/) — Live shows often go wrong a little; audiences tend to remember the fun more than the mistakes. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/13/) — Plans change and money can be tight; fun nearby, like a day out or a picnic, can still be good. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/14/) — Art is partly a matter of taste, which means different people like different things; "subjective" means depending on the person. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/15/) — Not being chosen once does not mean you can't do something; practice and lessons often change the result next time. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/16/) — In science, experiments often fail the first time; explaining why it failed is real science too, called trial and error. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/17/) — Even top chess players, called grandmasters, lose games; going over a lost game is one of the best ways to improve. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/18/) — Sport is not always fair, and referees make mistakes; learning to let go matters more than shouting. - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/25-disappointed-when-things-dont-go-the-way-you-hoped/19/) — Thoughts with "never" and "always" in them, like "we never do anything fun", are usually exaggerations of a real feeling. - ← previous: [I failed: the missed penalty, the lost race, the bad mark](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/24-i-failed-the-missed-penalty-the-lost-race-the-bad-mark/) - next →: [The mind at night: replays, worst-case thinking and nightmares](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/26-the-mind-at-night-replays-worst-case-thinking-and-nightmares/) - ↑ back to [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/)