--- title: Getting help: when sadness or worry won't go away — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Getting help: when sadness or worry won't go away», a lesson of the reflection course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Most sad or worried feelings come and go, but some stay and stay: for two months Alfie felt flat, couldn't be bothere --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/) / Getting help: when sadness or worry wo… # Getting help: when sadness or worry won't go away Lesson 29 of the reflection course of Mova's primary school: 21 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/0/) — Most sad or worried feelings come and go, but some stay and stay: for two months Alfie felt flat, couldn't be bothered with football, was tired all the time and cried in the shower for no reason, and he kept thinking: "I've got nothing to be sad about. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/1/) — My life's fine. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/2/) — What's wrong with me? - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/3/) — I can't tell anyone, they'll think I'm being dramatic." - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/4/) — It started small after his gran moved away; week by week it got greyer; he said "fine" a hundred times; when he finally told his mum he cried for an hour, then slept better than he had for weeks; with the family doctor and a school counsellor, it lifted slowly over months, and he started football again bit by bit. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/5/) — What he came to understand: sadness or worry that goes on for weeks is a sign to get help, not something to hide; you don't need a "big reason"; asking for help is strong, not dramatic, and doctors and counsellors help children with this every day. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/6/) — Help has many doors: a parent, a teacher, the school nurse, a counsellor, a doctor, or a children's helpline, where real, trained people listen; a note to a teacher works if saying it out loud is too hard. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/7/) — Some things must never be kept secret: if a friend says they wish they weren't here, or you find out a friend is hurting themselves, tell a trusted adult straight away, even if they asked you not to; you can also call a helpline. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/8/) — Sadness or worry that lasts for weeks and gets in the way of normal life is a sign to tell a trusted adult and get help. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/9/) — You don't need a "big reason" to feel low; feelings can grow slowly, and asking for help is strong, not dramatic. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/10/) — Depression is an illness where low mood stays for a long time; it can be treated, and doctors and counsellors help with it. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/11/) — Anxiety is a lot of worry that won't go away; it can cause headaches, tummy aches and trouble sleeping, many children have it, and it can be helped. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/12/) — A counsellor is someone trained to help with feelings; going to one is like going to a doctor for your feelings, and it is normal and smart. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/13/) — If a friend says they wish they weren't here, or you learn a friend is hurting themselves, tell a trusted adult straight away, even if they asked you not to; you can also call a helpline. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/14/) — A helpline is a phone number where real, trained people listen and help; in the UK, Childline is a free helpline for children, and many other countries have their own. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/15/) — Confidential means kept private; helplines and counsellors keep what you say private unless someone is in danger. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/16/) — A good teacher who believes a child about bullying acts quickly; writing a note is a fine way to tell if speaking feels too hard. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/17/) — When a teacher asks you to stay behind and asks "are you okay?", it usually means they noticed you are struggling, not that you are in trouble. - [18](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/18/) — Therapy means talking with someone trained to help with feelings, such as anger or sadness; going shows someone wants to get better, not that they are "crazy". - [19](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/19/) — Trauma is the lasting effect of something very frightening; flashbacks are sudden, vivid memories of it; there is no time limit for getting over it, and counsellors can help. - [20](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/29-getting-help-when-sadness-or-worry-wont-go-away/20/) — Unkind words about people who get help come from not understanding; there is no shame in it. - ← previous: [Reading people in hard times: what's really behind the mean face](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/28-reading-people-in-hard-times-whats-really-behind-the-mean-face/) - next →: [Getting through it: who helps, what helps, and looking back](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/30-getting-through-it-who-helps-what-helps-and-looking-back/) - ↑ back to [Reflection](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/reflection/)