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title: When something hard happens, help usually comes in an order: first b… — Olympiad: thinking traps and what helps first ★★★ · tree and pragmatics
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# Olympiad: thinking traps and what helps first ★★★, sentence 3

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When something hard happens, help usually comes in an order: first be safe and get calm (slow breathing, a drink of water, a grown-up nearby), then tell someone you trust what happened, then put right what can be put right, then take small steps back to normal life, and over time look back at what you learned.

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**Who acts:** something, help, you · **What happens:** happen, come, be, get, grow up, tell · **To what, where:** order, someone, right, small steps · **Speech:** someone speaks here

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This is a sentence of the lesson «Olympiad: thinking traps and what helps first ★★★» of the reflection course of Mova's primary school. The page gives its syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause: who acts (something, help, you), what happens, when and where, as Mova's frames read it from the tree.

## The tree {#tree}

```conllu
# sent_id = school:reflection:032-olympiad-thinking-traps-and-what-helps-first.lesson:3
# text = When something hard happens, help usually comes in an order: first be safe and get calm (slow breathing, a drink of water, a grown-up nearby), then tell someone you trust what happened, then put right what can be put right, then take small steps back to normal life, and over time look back at what you learned.
# source = school lesson (ours)
# course = reflection
# lesson = 032-olympiad-thinking-traps-and-what-helps-first.lesson
# annotation = Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R4-particle ×1, R5-strong ×2, R7-rel-agree ×1
1	When	when	ADV	WRB	PronType=Int	4	advmod	_	_
2	something	something	PRON	NN	Number=Sing|PronType=Ind	4	nsubj	_	_
3	hard	hard	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	2	amod	_	Agree=R5-strong|Haiku=4:advmod|HaikuPos=ADV:RB:Degree=Pos
4	happens	happen	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	8	advcl	_	_
5	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	6	punct	_	_
6	help	help	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	8	nsubj	_	_
7	usually	usually	ADV	RB	_	8	advmod	_	_
8	comes	come	VERB	VBZ	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	0	root	_	_
9	in	in	ADP	IN	_	11	case	_	_
10	an	a	DET	DT	Definite=Ind|PronType=Art	11	det	_	_
11	order	order	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	8	obl	_	_
12	:	:	PUNCT	:	_	15	punct	_	_
13	first	first	ADV	RB	NumForm=Word|NumType=Ord	15	advmod	_	Agree=R7-rel-agree|Haiku=15:amod|HaikuPos=ADJ:JJ:Degree=Pos|NumForm=Word|NumType=Ord
14	be	be	AUX	VB	VerbForm=Inf	15	cop	_	_
15	safe	safe	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	11	appos	_	_
16	and	and	CCONJ	CC	_	17	cc	_	_
17	get	get	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	15	conj	_	_
18	calm	calm	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	17	xcomp	_	_
19	(	(	PUNCT	-LRB-	_	21	punct	_	_
20	slow	slow	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	21	amod	_	_
21	breathing	breathing	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	18	obl	_	_
22	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	24	punct	_	_
23	a	a	DET	DT	Definite=Ind|PronType=Art	24	det	_	_
24	drink	drink	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	21	conj	_	_
25	of	of	ADP	IN	_	26	case	_	_
26	water	water	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	24	nmod	_	_
27	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	2	punct	_	_
28	a	a	DET	DT	Definite=Ind|PronType=Art	31	det	_	Agree=R5-strong|Haiku=29:det
29	grown	grow	VERB	VBN	Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part	2	acl:relcl	_	_
30	-	-	PUNCT	HYPH	_	31	punct	_	_
31	up	up	ADP	RP	_	29	compound:prt	_	Agree=R4-particle|Haiku=29:compound
32	nearby	nearby	ADV	RB	_	29	advmod	_	_
33	)	)	PUNCT	-RRB-	_	32	punct	_	_
34	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	36	punct	_	_
35	then	then	ADV	RB	PronType=Dem	36	advmod	_	_
36	tell	tell	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	15	conj	_	_
37	someone	someone	PRON	NN	Number=Sing|PronType=Ind	36	obj	_	_
38	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	39	nsubj	_	_
39	trust	trust	VERB	VBP	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin	37	acl:relcl	_	_
40	what	what	PRON	WP	PronType=Int	41	nsubj	_	_
41	happened	happen	VERB	VBD	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Past|VerbForm=Fin	39	ccomp	_	_
42	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	44	punct	_	_
43	then	then	ADV	RB	PronType=Dem	44	advmod	_	_
44	put	put	VERB	VB	Mood=Imp|VerbForm=Fin	36	conj	_	_
45	right	right	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	44	obj	_	_
46	what	what	PRON	WP	PronType=Int	49	obj	_	_
47	can	can	AUX	MD	VerbForm=Fin	49	aux	_	_
48	be	be	AUX	VB	VerbForm=Inf	49	aux:pass	_	_
49	put	put	VERB	VBN	Tense=Past|VerbForm=Part|Voice=Pass	45	ccomp	_	_
50	right	right	ADV	RB	_	49	advmod	_	_
51	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	53	punct	_	_
52	then	then	ADV	RB	PronType=Dem	53	advmod	_	_
53	take	take	VERB	VB	VerbForm=Inf	44	conj	_	_
54	small	small	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	55	amod	_	_
55	steps	step	NOUN	NNS	Number=Plur	53	obj	_	_
56	back	back	ADV	RB	_	53	advmod	_	_
57	to	to	ADP	IN	_	59	case	_	_
58	normal	normal	ADJ	JJ	Degree=Pos	59	amod	_	_
59	life	life	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	56	obl	_	_
60	,	,	PUNCT	,	_	64	punct	_	_
61	and	and	CCONJ	CC	_	64	cc	_	_
62	over	over	ADP	IN	_	63	case	_	_
63	time	time	NOUN	NN	Number=Sing	64	obl	_	_
64	look	look	VERB	VB	Mood=Imp|VerbForm=Fin	44	conj	_	_
65	back	back	ADV	RB	_	64	advmod	_	_
66	at	at	ADP	IN	_	67	case	_	_
67	what	what	PRON	WP	PronType=Rel	64	obl	_	_
68	you	you	PRON	PRP	Case=Nom|Person=2|PronType=Prs	69	nsubj	_	_
69	learned	learn	VERB	VBD	Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=2|Tense=Past|VerbForm=Fin	67	acl:relcl	_	_
70	.	.	PUNCT	.	_	8	punct	_	_
```

## Pragmatics {#pragmatics}

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No stored speech act for this sentence.

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| # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
| 1 | **happen** | present | something |  |  |  |  |  | vn occur-48.3-1 «NP V»: agent=Theme |
| 2 | **come** | present | help |  |  | a order |  | usually *property* | vn appear-48.1.1 «NP V PP.location»: agent=Theme in order=Location |
| 3 | **is** | infinitive |  |  |  |  |  | first, safe *property* | tree rules |
| 4 | **get** | infinitive |  |  |  |  |  | calm *property* | vn comprehend-87.2-1 «NP V S\_ING»: agent=Experiencer |
| 5 | **grow up** | participle |  |  |  |  |  | nearby *property* | vn appear-48.1.1 «NP V»: agent=Theme |
| 6 | **tell** *speech: assert* | infinitive |  |  | someone |  | then |  | vn transfer\_mesg-37.1.1-1-1 «NP V NP.recipient»: agent=Agent someone=Recipient |
| 7 | **trust** | present | you |  |  |  |  |  | vn conjecture-29.5-1 «NP V that S»: agent=Agent clause=Theme |
| 8 | **happen** | past |  |  |  |  |  |  | vn occur-48.3-1 «NP V»: agent=Theme |
| 9 | **put** | infinitive |  | right |  |  | then |  | vn invest-13.5.4-1 «NP V PP»: agent=Agent right=Goal |
| 10 | **put** | can · passive |  |  |  |  |  | right *property* | vn invest-13.5.4-1 «NP V PP»: what=Goal |
| 11 | **take** | infinitive |  | small steps |  |  | then |  | vn bring-11.3 «NP V NP»: agent=Agent step=Theme |
| 12 | **look back** | infinitive |  |  |  |  | time |  | vn peer-30.3 «NP V PP.theme»: agent=Agent at what=Theme |
| 13 | **learn** | past | you |  |  |  |  |  | vn learn-14-1 «NP V»: agent=Agent |

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One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree.

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**The tree:** Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R4-particle ×1, R5-strong ×2, R7-rel-agree ×1. **The frames** are read from the tree by Mova's frames reader (`prag`) when this page is built, the lesson read in order, so a pronoun may be resolved from an earlier sentence.

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