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The page gives its syntax tree — a dependency tree in the style of Universal Dependencies — and its pragmatics clause by clause: who acts (mum, perfect words, most people), what happens, when and where, as Mova's frames read it from the tree. ## The tree {#tree} ```conllu # sent_id = school:religion-ethics:061-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do.lesson:0 # text = When a friend's mum or dad dies, there are no perfect words, and most people are afraid of saying the wrong thing; but a small, honest «I'm really sorry about your mum» is far better than saying nothing and drifting away. # source = school lesson (ours) # course = religion-ethics # lesson = 061-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do.lesson # annotation = Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R1-cc-next ×2, R3-conj-first ×1, R5-strong ×2, R6-punct-agree ×2 1 When when SCONJ WRB _ 8 mark _ _ 2 a a DET DT Definite=Ind|PronType=Art 3 det _ _ 3 friend friend NOUN NN Number=Sing 5 nmod:poss _ _ 4 's 's PART POS _ 3 case _ _ 5 mum mum NOUN NN Number=Sing 8 nsubj _ _ 6 or or CCONJ CC _ 7 cc _ Agree=R1-cc-next|Haiku=5:cc 7 dad dad NOUN NN Number=Sing 5 conj _ _ 8 dies die VERB VBZ Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 11 advcl _ _ 9 , , PUNCT , _ 11 punct _ _ 10 there there PRON EX PronType=Dem 11 expl _ _ 11 are be VERB VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 0 root _ _ 12 no no DET DT PronType=Neg 14 det _ _ 13 perfect perfect ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 14 amod _ _ 14 words word NOUN NNS Number=Plur 11 nsubj _ _ 15 , , PUNCT , _ 20 punct _ _ 16 and and CCONJ CC _ 20 cc _ Agree=R1-cc-next|Haiku=11:cc 17 most most ADJ JJS Degree=Sup 18 amod _ _ 18 people people NOUN NNS Number=Plur 20 nsubj _ _ 19 are be AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Plur|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 20 cop _ _ 20 afraid afraid ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 11 conj _ _ 21 of of SCONJ IN _ 22 mark _ _ 22 saying say VERB VBG Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part 20 advcl _ _ 23 the the DET DT Definite=Def|PronType=Art 25 det _ _ 24 wrong wrong ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 25 amod _ _ 25 thing thing NOUN NN Number=Sing 22 obj _ _ 26 ; ; PUNCT , _ 36 punct _ _ 27 but but CCONJ CC _ 36 cc _ _ 28 a a DET DT Definite=Ind|PronType=Art 36 det _ _ 29 small small ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 36 amod _ _ 30 , , PUNCT , _ 29 punct _ _ 31 honest honest ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 36 advcl _ _ 32 « « PUNCT `` _ 36 punct _ Agree=R6-punct-agree|Haiku=31:punct 33 I I PRON PRP Case=Nom|Number=Sing|Person=1|PronType=Prs 36 nsubj _ _ 34 'm be AUX VBP Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=1|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 36 cop _ _ 35 really really ADV RB _ 36 advmod _ _ 36 sorry sorry ADJ JJ Degree=Pos 11 conj _ _ 37 about about SCONJ IN _ 43 mark _ _ 38 your your PRON PRP$ Case=Gen|Person=2|Poss=Yes|PronType=Prs 39 nmod:poss _ Agree=R5-strong|Haiku=40:nmod:poss 39 mum mum NOUN NN Number=Sing 36 obl _ Agree=R5-strong|Haiku=40:amod|HaikuPos=ADJ:JJ:Degree=Pos 40 » » PUNCT '' _ 36 punct _ _ 41 is be AUX VBZ Mood=Ind|Number=Sing|Person=3|Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Fin 43 cop _ _ 42 far far ADV RB Degree=Pos 43 advmod _ _ 43 better good ADJ JJR Degree=Cmp 11 conj _ Agree=R3-conj-first|Haiku=36:conj 44 than than SCONJ IN _ 45 mark _ _ 45 saying say VERB VBG Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part 43 advcl _ _ 46 nothing nothing PRON NN Number=Sing|PronType=Neg 45 obj _ _ 47 and and CCONJ CC _ 48 cc _ _ 48 drifting drift VERB VBG Tense=Pres|VerbForm=Part 45 conj _ _ 49 away away ADV RB _ 48 advmod _ _ 50 . . PUNCT . _ 11 punct _ Agree=R6-punct-agree|Haiku=8:punct ``` ## Pragmatics {#pragmatics} No stored speech act for this sentence. | # | verb | tense, mood | who | what, whom | to whom | where | when | other | roles by | | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | --- | | 1 | **die** | present | a friend's mum or dad | | | | | | vn calibratable\_cos-45.6.1 «NP.attribute V»: agent=Attribute | | 2 | **does** | present | no perfect words | | | there | | | vn exist-47.1 «NP V»: agent=Theme | | 3 | **is** | present | most people | | | | | afraid *property* | tree rules | | 4 | **say** *speech: assert* | gerund | most people *not said here* | the wrong thing | | | | | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V NP.topic»: agent=Agent thing=Topic | | 5 | **is** *in a quote* | present | no perfect words *= word* | | | | | your mum *obl*; sorry *property* | tree rules | | 6 | **is** | present | no perfect words *not said here* | | | | | far, good *property* | tree rules | | 7 | **say** *speech: assert* | gerund | no perfect words *not said here* | nothing | | | | | vn say-37.7-1-1 «NP V NP.topic»: agent=Agent nothing=Topic | | 8 | **drift away** | gerund | no perfect words *not said here* | | | | | away *property* | vn run-51.3.2-2 «NP V»: agent=Theme | One row per clause the reader finds. «not said here»: a role filled from the clause above. «roles by»: a VerbNet class and frame when one fits the verb, else the reader's rules on the tree. **Licence: [CC BY-SA 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/)**, as the whole of Mova corpus 0.4, of which this treebank (the agreed school, `mova-school-agreed-en.conllu`) is part. The lessons were written for Mova's primary school. Sentence `school:religion-ethics:061-when-a-friends-mum-or-dad-dies-what-to-say-and-do.lesson:0`. **The tree:** Mova annot: Rust (en) → Haiku 5.5 (medium, Batches API) patches; gates UD 2.18; agreed by treeagree rules (Stanza, Trankit, spaCy trf): R1-cc-next ×2, R3-conj-first ×1, R5-strong ×2, R6-punct-agree ×2. **The frames** are read from the tree by Mova's frames reader (`prag`) when this page is built, the lesson read in order, so a pronoun may be resolved from an earlier sentence. 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