--- title: Grief: crying, not crying and feeling numb — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Grief: crying, not crying and feeling numb», a lesson of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Grief is the big, heavy feeling that comes when someone we love dies; you could call it love that has nowhere to go for --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/) / Grief: crying, not crying and feeling… # Grief: crying, not crying and feeling numb Lesson 66 of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school: 17 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/0/) — Grief is the big, heavy feeling that comes when someone we love dies; you could call it love that has nowhere to go for a while. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/1/) — It does not look the same in everyone: Ellie cries every night for a week after Grandad's funeral, her cousin Tom does not cry at all when his nan dies, and both of them loved their grandparents. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/2/) — Some people feel numb, as if they were in a bubble; some feel it in the body, with tummy aches or nights without sleep; and tears can arrive a month later, in the middle of a maths lesson, out of nowhere. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/3/) — Grief comes in waves, like the sea at the beach: a big wave, then calm, then another wave when a song or a smell brings it back, and over time the waves usually get gentler. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/4/) — Christians remember that Jesus wept when his friend Lazarus died, and people of every faith and none cry for those they love; boys and men cry too. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/5/) — The wise move is the same for everyone: let the feeling come in its own way, and tell a grown-up you trust how you feel. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/6/) — Grief is the mix of feelings that comes when someone we love dies. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/7/) — Crying is a normal and healthy way to let sadness out; it usually gets less over time, though it can come back. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/8/) — Not crying does not mean not loving; some people cry later, cry inside, or show sadness in other ways. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/9/) — Feeling numb, «like being in a bubble», is very common after a death, especially at first; it is the mind's way of coping with a big shock. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/10/) — Grief often comes in waves: something small, like a song or a smell, can bring it back suddenly, even after a good day. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/11/) — Grief can show in the body as tummy aches, headaches, tiredness or trouble sleeping; talking to someone, reading or calm music before bed can help, and if aches do not get better, a doctor can help. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/12/) — Boys and men cry too; crying is human, not girly and not weak. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/13/) — In the Bible, Jesus wept for his friend Lazarus, so Christians see crying as part of love. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/14/) — Having fun, like going to a mate's birthday party, does not mean you have stopped caring. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/15/) — Writing a letter to someone who has died can help you say what you did not get to say; the letter is for you. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/17/) — There is no single right way to grieve, and no feeling in grief is «wrong». - ← previous: [How other people remember: Día de los Muertos, Qingming and more](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/65-how-other-people-remember-dia-de-los-muertos-qingming-and-more/) - next →: [Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at the wrong moment](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/) - ↑ back to [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/)