--- title: Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at the wrong moment — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at the wrong moment», a lesson of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Grief is not only sadness: after his dad's funeral Ben slams doors and shouts «It's not FAIR!», and that ange --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/) / Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at th… # Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at the wrong moment Lesson 67 of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school: 16 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/0/) — Grief is not only sadness: after his dad's funeral Ben slams doors and shouts «It's not FAIR!», and that anger is part of grief too, because losing someone you love really does feel unfair. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/1/) — People can be angry at the doctors, at God, at a little sister, even at the person who died; the feeling is allowed, but hurting people is not, so the anger needs a safe way out: running, drawing, punching a pillow, talking. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/3/) — Nervous giggles at a funeral, like Max and his cousin during the prayers, happen to lots of people: the body lets off tension in a strange way, and it does not mean they did not care. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/4/) — Christians point out that the Psalms are full of angry questions to God, and the vicar says God can take our anger and still loves us; people of every faith and none know these mixed feelings. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/5/) — For a child today this means: name the feeling, let it out safely, say sorry if it spilled onto someone, and remember that nothing you did caused the death. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/6/) — Anger is a very normal part of grief; it is okay to feel angry, but not okay to hurt people. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/7/) — Safe ways to let anger out include running, drawing, punching a pillow and talking to someone. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/8/) — Doctors try very hard, but some illnesses cannot be cured; it is usually not the doctors' fault. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/9/) — Many people, even priests, feel angry or confused with God when someone they prayed for dies. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/10/) — The Psalms in the Bible contain many angry and sad questions to God. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/11/) — Being naughty never makes anyone ill or die; illness happens because of things in the body. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/12/) — Death often comes when people are not expecting it, so being away at that moment does not mean you did not love the person. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/13/) — Nervous laughter at serious times is common; it is the body letting off tension, not a sign of not caring. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/14/) — Grief can make people snappy; saying sorry helps, and so does telling someone you are sad. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/16/) — Love is shown in many ways, not only by saying «I love you». - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/17/) — You can love someone and be angry with them at the same time, even after they have died. - ← previous: [Grief: crying, not crying and feeling numb](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/66-grief-crying-not-crying-and-feeling-numb/) - next →: [Missing someone: memory boxes, birthdays and special days](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/) - ↑ back to [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/)