--- title: Missing someone: memory boxes, birthdays and special days — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «Missing someone: memory boxes, birthdays and special days», a lesson of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Missing someone is what love does when the person is no longer there, and families find ways to keep tha --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/) / Missing someone: memory boxes, birthda… # Missing someone: memory boxes, birthdays and special days Lesson 68 of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school: 17 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/0/) — Missing someone is what love does when the person is no longer there, and families find ways to keep that love close. - [1](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/1/) — Ellie and her mum make a memory box for Grandad: his glasses, a photo, the wrapper from his favourite sweets and a postcard, and she can open it whenever she misses him. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/2/) — Special days are often the hardest: on Grandad's birthday Ellie's family eat his favourite cake and tell stories about him, and at Christmas Lily's family set an empty chair for her mum. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/3/) — Grief can also jump out of nowhere: six months after Grandma died, Mia smells Grandma's perfume on a lady in a shop and starts crying; this is called a grief trigger, and it is normal. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/4/) — Christians light candles and pray for those they miss, many families plant a tree or keep a hoodie that still smells of Dad, and people of every faith and none keep photos, recordings and stories. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/5/) — Remembering on special days does not keep you stuck in sadness; it says «you are still part of us». - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/6/) — A memory box is a special place to keep things that remind you of someone who has died. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/7/) — Many families mark a loved one's birthday by doing something that person loved, like eating their favourite cake. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/8/) — Holidays like Christmas can be very hard after a death, because they remind us who is missing. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/9/) — Some families set an empty chair or light a candle at a festival to remember the person. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/10/) — A grief trigger is a smell, song, place or object that suddenly brings back strong feelings of loss. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/11/) — Keeping clothes or things that smell like someone can bring comfort; many people do this. - [12](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/12/) — Anniversaries of a death can bring grief back strongly, even years later. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/13/) — Writing or talking about someone who has died keeps their memory alive. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/14/) — Many Christians and others plant trees or flowers in memory of loved ones. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/16/) — A recording of a loved one's voice can bring comfort and tears; it is okay to listen or not. - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/17/) — Christians and people of other faiths remember the dead with prayers and customs on special days. - ← previous: [Grief: anger, guilt and laughing at the wrong moment](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/67-grief-anger-guilt-and-laughing-at-the-wrong-moment/) - next →: [When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/) - ↑ back to [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/)