--- title: When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer — a lesson of Mova's school · trees and pragmatics description: «When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer», a lesson of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school, sentence by sentence with dependency trees and pragmatics. It begins: Grown-ups grieve too: a month after Grandad died, Ellie hears her mum crying in the bathroom, because Grandad was Mu --- [Mova](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) · [this page in HTML](https://mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/) [home](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/) / [corpora](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/) / [school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/) / [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/) / When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets… # When grown-ups grieve, and how it gets softer Lesson 69 of the religion ethics course of Mova's primary school: 16 sentences, each with its syntax tree and pragmatics. The lessons are written for Mova, and their agreed trees are part of Mova corpus 0.4 (CC BY-SA 4.0). How Mova does on its tests: [the lesson at school](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/school-run/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/). - [0](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/0/) — Grown-ups grieve too: a month after Grandad died, Ellie hears her mum crying in the bathroom, because Grandad was Mum's own dad, and nobody is ever too old to miss their mum or dad. - [2](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/2/) — Grief usually gets softer with time: Oscar's grandad says that a year after his wife died the pain is «like a bruise that's healing», still there when touched, but no longer sharp all the time. - [3](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/3/) — Getting help is part of healing: Ben's mum talks to a grief counsellor, Holly's aunt finds comfort in her church, Charlie's grandad joins a lunch club, and Lily's dad slowly starts laughing again, which is healing, not forgetting. - [4](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/4/) — Christians believe God comforts all who mourn and slowly turns mourning into joy; people of every faith and none find that love, friends and time help. - [5](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/5/) — A photo that once made everyone cry, like Jayden's grandad in the hallway, can one day make them smile: that is how grief changes into thankful love. - [6](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/6/) — Grown-ups grieve too, sometimes for a long time. - [7](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/7/) — Being grown-up does not stop you missing your own mum or dad. - [8](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/8/) — Grown-ups sometimes hide sadness to protect children; families often heal better when they can be sad together. - [9](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/9/) — For most people the pain of grief gets softer over time; it does not vanish completely, but there is more room for happy memories. - [10](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/10/) — A grief counsellor is someone trained to help people with big feelings after a death. - [11](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/11/) — Many churches run bereavement support groups; people of all beliefs use counsellors and helplines. - [13](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/13/) — Laughing and being happy again does not mean forgetting or not loving the person who died. - [14](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/14/) — Making new friends after a loss, for example at a lunch club, helps people feel less lonely; it does not replace the person who died. - [15](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/15/) — People can miss someone their whole life, but after many years the missing is usually gentler. - [16](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/16/) — Christians believe God comforts those who mourn; Jesus said, «Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.» - [17](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/69-when-grown-ups-grieve-and-how-it-gets-softer/17/) — You do not have to forget someone in order to heal. - ← previous: [Missing someone: memory boxes, birthdays and special days](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/68-missing-someone-memory-boxes-birthdays-and-special-days/) - next →: [Bedtime fears: «Will you die, Mum?» and «Will I die?»](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/70-bedtime-fears-will-you-die-mum-and-will-i-die/) - ↑ back to [Religion ethics](https://md.mova.elamur.ai/free/en/corpora/school/religion-ethics/)